The best way to know if you are unconsciously demonstrating confident uncertainty is to listen to yourself, look in the mirror and watch your body language, or work with a professional counselor or career coach to see where your shadow uncertainty could be coming through.
How can you show certainty and glow with confidence? Write a life or career success story. Then ask yourself:
· Is my story true?
· Did I overstate or understate my qualifications?
· Were there qualifiers that dilute my experience?
Next, tell your story in the mirror. Does your body language reflect the confidence your words are saying or is there an unspoken “yes, but”?
If you are having difficulty coming up with confident words and expressions for your success story, you can purchase “Fire Up Your Profile For LifeWork Success” to boost your self-esteem and find confident word lists. The Writing Center, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill has lists of confident words and words that show uncertainty. Choose qualifiers sparingly when needed.
Take a few minutes to write a brief career story, smile, and share it. We’d love to hear from you.
Example: My Success Story
I am a Personal/Business/Career Coach with a Master’s degree in Career Counseling. I help entrepreneurs, job seekers, and writers find work in harmony with their values and talents.
In the past I’ve had many jobs that didn’t fit my values. I continued to work in unfulfilling jobs, didn’t have an exit plan, and felt exhausted at the end of the day. I am very blessed to have the opportunity to use my skills and abilities to help people find fulfillment in their work.
Whether you are working on a job search, a book, or a project, I can provide tools, motivation, focus, and accountability to help you reach your goals.
I find energy from the ocean and peace from going out to the lake on our kayak. Traveling to new places is inspiring and invigorates my creativity.